MIND THAT CONTROVERSY...

Just that everybody seem to like her does not mean she is miss popular.
That she hangs around guys more does not make her a flirt.

That she looks way too bigger than her age does not make her less a virgin.
That she is favored does not mean she does not deserve them good things.
That she is a smarty pant does not mean she knows all.
That she wins most times does not make her a perfectionist.
That she is a feminist does not mean she hates guys.
That she tries to look fit does not mean she does not have weight problem.
That she prefers to keep to herself does not make her a loner.
That she is antagonistic at times does not make her a sadistic.
That she is not sanctimonious does not mean she is not a born again.
Most times, we just have to pocket our mouths and work on ourselves, because that girl we consider controversial is not a bit controversial than we all are.
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BIG GIRLS***

Literally, I mean the BIG GIRLS, not the EVERY BODY'S SYNDROME for class groovy girls that don't cry or that can take care of themselves... But the girls with the BIG STATURE! 

Big girls look bigger than their real age.
 They look 24 when they are barely 18.
 They are always at the beck and call of nature's pranks and hormone tricks. 
Big girls wish to eat without adding weight, yet the reverse always takes effect. 
They count every calorie a dish offers but cannot count any calorie lost. 
Big girls take weight loss as a challenge, but lose hope when the challenge ironically makes them fatter. 
They diet more than every slender girl, yet they tend to fill up their jeans even quicker than the jeans slack, when their bodies adjust to the normal routine. 
Big girls seem to care little about themselves, but in truth, they care more about their future condition. 
Most people don't know this but; they are extremely worried about the frustration lines left behind by the angry stubborn fat they try to burn. 
They are pretty worried that they cannot look like the Victoria Secret Model they see on the label of their lingerie. 
They are sad that they cannot fit into swimsuits considered 'sexy' by the society. 
They are ever upset that they cannot look normal without much weight loss and dieting routines. 
They ask questions like; 'why can't I just be like my slim room-mate who eats all the Cheerios in the fridge without ever adding a pound?' 'Must I really GYM to lose weight?' 'Should I give up on junks when they are irresistibly delicious?’ Big Girls find it difficult to accept their fate. They never do. Not even BYPASS is an option, because that awful VORACIOUS appetite is sneaking around the corner and ever ready to invade the BIG GIRL'S territory, together with its footman-FAT!!!! Hahahahahaahahahah! FROM OSY... 
THUMBS UP TO ALL THE BIG GIRLS IN THE WORLD. THEY ARE TRULY THE MOST HARD WORKING!

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POSITIVITY!

Now, this is the key to all closed doors; steel doors, corrugated iron doors, bullet-proof doors, marble

doors, hard wooden doors and all sorts of tough doors one could ever think of. Positivity was the key that opened the door of creation. It is the key that has brought innovations and techniques to the world that has turned it 2 a global village through science and technology. It is the torch to that dark tunnel that looks haunted and inaccessible. It is the eenergiser of all disconcerted spirits. Positivity is the antidote to all poisons; the salt of all meals; the light every darkness needs; a balm of all wounds. Though it requires more practise than words, it gives excellent result when combined with patience and perseverance.. No matter how vague and less vivid you situation looks, when positivity takes over, all myopia is corrected, and a better sense of belonging is built. Live a positive life; when things are good, it is wonderful: when they turn sour, it is experience!.                      Follow @teeniethink

STRENGTH OF A BOOK

So strange how free and liberated I feel, when I cast all my burden, cares and worries on you. Very interesting to find out so many truths and mysteries, when I meticulously explore every part of you. How inspiring it is when I get closer to you on my boring days. How great it feels to have you around me always. It is too good to be true to know that you are endless; you have found a path with a Supreme Being that has made you immortal. I am so pleased to know you. You, who has become the mouth piece of the dumb, the deaf and the timid. You, who has seen great and record-breaking events that has occurred way too long before our forefathers were ever conceived. You, who has become much more important than any armaments ever fashioned. You, who has decided to fall right back in love with anyone who wants you badly...... I have never seen anyone as generous as you are, when it comes to sharing your love. What amazes me most is that you share it according to the passion each lover has for you. The world sees through you. This defected world uses you as a pair of glasses to correct their myopia. This dumb world hears through you. Though I acknowledge my love for you, sometimes I doubt it, because you make and mar. Through you; thousands of generations could be destroyed or even built to be scattered. You sit on a fence, which is why you allow evil and good to abide in you. The explicit world uses you; the occultist world makes you manipulate inquisitive souls into their folds. Spiritually sharpened eyes got blunt when they invade your explicit and vulgar arena... _Young and pure souls are lost. Homes are shattered_ you caused it all! Do you have any idea? My love, please, can you do me a favour by taking a stand? Not with the side that mars and destroys, but with the side that builds and corrects... THANK YOU

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MIND MADE UP…

The moment of decision. The final step in judgement. The beginning of an end. A truce signed by ones body and soul. Breaking habits... Building morals... Drawing a thick conclusion like a mortician, mistakes are corrected, truths are unveiled. Just like a macerated soy, burdened hearts are freed. The distance is very far, but the first step to the journey must be taken. Wounds got to heal. No matter how long it takes, eternal patience still remains the ultimate in this game. In every risk is a cost that either leads to a glut or a bloom; yet everyone craves for the best. Taking chances to win a battle, successes are attained in the expense of others' happiness. Fulfilling dreams... Unfolding visions... Saying goodbye to turning tables and re branding a new way of life... Taking chances against all odds to avoid flaws. It is time to wiggle out of that tough situation... Time to repair all broken bridges and Time to take a life-changing drastic actions to make up for wasted times.

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HOW TO BE THE PERFECT LISTENER

                            Friendship is the most important thing, the world has ever experienced. Yes without friendship, the existence of several parts of the world would have remained concealed, and most would go extinct.

Friendship led to effective communication and the urge to relate to the rest of humankind, which has led to the world being “a small village”… a global village. Just amongst individuals, little friendship arises to great friendship. It is very important for one to value the real essence of this beautiful gift nature has blessed us with.
It is also essential to know that friendship is a two way thing…”reciprocating” being the master-minder of every successful friendship.
Another is “listening”, which is the most neglected of all.
Listening is very important to take friendship to another level. Just imagine a relationship whereby your friend remembers every little detail about you that you might have mentioned in your discussions, intentionally or not. It would be quite so magical, that one could call the friend a mind reader.
Being a listener is quite simple. You could be the best friend you have ever dreamt to be or you could possibly be the boyfriend someone has been praying to have… Imagine being an answer to someone’s prayer.
Trying these steps below could make you someone’s miracle.
Listen to your friend very attentively without interruption.
Just let the conversation flow from your friend’s heart. It makes your friend feel important and raises his/her self-esteem too.
Pause for a while before replying him/her. Pausing helps you know if your friend is done talking or just had a break. It also allows you to understand more of what your friend means. Pausing is more like an opportunity to drink and digest your friend’s words. This makes your friend feel important as he/she would be eager to hear you talk.
Ask necessary questions to be sure. Do not assume that you already know what your friend meant by what they said. Instead ask questions like;
“How do you mean exactly?”
“I don’t get”
“How do you feel about that?”
“Then what did you do?”
Asking questions keeps you in charge of the situation.
Give your friend a feedback using your own words and at the same time be polite.
Now this is called the acid test of listening
Be very sincere to your friend. It develops trust.
Be very real to your friend. Your friend will know when you bare saying empty words; when your appreciation, approval, admiration or attention, is false. You know, when you are faking it.
If you don’t believe what you are saying, don’t expect others to believe you.
According to Albert Mehrabian of UCLA, a conversation contains three elements:
Body language-------55% of the message
Tone of voice--------38%
The words themselves---7%
So if you are faking it, your body language and tone will give you away no matter what you say.
ARE YOU A GOOD LISTENER? If no, then try these steps out, and you won’t regret trying,
GOOD LUCK
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MISS LONELY

In vogue now is the endless pageantry's swimming in this our little ocean called EARTH;
The beauty, fashion, and face pageants. Most trending now is the academic pageants in campuses.
Amongst all of these pageants, as a 21st century lady, I have been most unfortunate to have being effortlessly crowned 'Miss Lonely'. A flawless victory!

Indeed, I am so lonely!
The more I try not to be, the more isolated I become.
My Friendship-Zone keeps expanding. Ironically, I appear obscure in the picture.
Apparently, the world is a beehive of activities, but it appears unusually empty and calm to me.
My family is always there for me but not always here with me.
Sometimes, I look for the ideal soul to share my pains with, but I find none.
The dauntless smiles, the pretty faces, the attentiveness and the smashing remarks... How genuine are they? 
Am I being too sensitive or could this be the product of my feelings of insecurity?
Are they friends or foes? Acquaintances or fr enemies?

And I will be damned!
The very ears I infiltrated are being dewaxed.
The curious eyes I gazed upon have turned queer and indifferent.
The same solid shoulders I leaned on have become miry
The solid convictions I use to get have all melted away...

I wonder, if this loneliness has turned to amnesia,
Because I cannot I identify myself anymore.
All friends I know have gradually become unknowns
I feel like am living all alone in this world
All by myself
Walking down an endless path
Trying to make my way home.
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RISKS!!!

We all are born into the world of risks. The process of our existence was risky. Our delivery into this

planet was 'risk' personified. Many lives were sacrificed during the risks and some could not cope with the stench odour of the risks they perceived in their mother's womb, hence, hey left way too early; before, on, in, and even after time. R-I-S-K__ that is the generic name for 'earth'. Our manner of speech is a risk we take in order not to harm or hurt people. Our "to and fro" movements are all risks we take to make ends meet; for ourselves and the ones we love. Risk has taught us that everyone is important and that no one is too important; that is why we are always on edge to maintain a healthy relationship. But risk, remains obstinate and ever inevitable. That is the true nature of risk. Risk cautions us to be watchful of our environment; everyone we meet; everything that goes into our mouth and our way of life. Risk tells us that every safety gadget around us could become harmful tools to us. It tells us that the more we worry about it, the more it lurks around. It tells us that it has come to stay and that no matter what we do, it can never go away-just like a tattoo-. And that it could be alas, a good thing, if we accept its immortality and make good use of it, because it could sculpt us into better personalities, if only we allow it to. "Why worry too much about me?" Queries Risk. "Inventing and innovating equipment and tools to get rid of me?, making yourselves sick of fear instead of going about your daily businesses, and attending to other problems". "Snob me!" Yells Risk; "I guess you could be lucky enough to have me reciprocate!, because no matter what you do, I remain Omnipresent!" Risk brags.

    Don't forget to share the greatest risk you ever took..

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"HOW DO DREAMS COME TRUE?"

 I keep pondering. I want to be; a well-known writer; an activist; a philanthropist; a great artist and the likes, but how do we bring our dreams to reality? The sage says" a day begins a story" yeah! I know, I mean everybody knows that. How do we go about that story? Moreover, there are over 50 billion people on earth who must have envisaged fame only to be left to dim in the shackles of their

own dreams... Ironically, most famous people never dreamt of such popular oriels, but there they are! Am I alone in my thoughts of "how my dreams come true?" Or are there people like me too? I wonder! Mhm..., those they have made it already or those whom we assume are already there, will tell us to practise consistently, with patience and perseverance... For Christ sake! How many unrealised dreams are 6 feet today? And how many more will leave the surface of the earth without achieving fame with their God given talents, let alone actualising them. Al right, how many of those pep talks by the so-called youth/women motivators have made people famous or at least changed the world's garment? I have come to realise that fame is not for everyone. I mean imagine it if everyone on earth were to be popular? Our news lines won't have commercial breaks any more; soap operas would be endless; everyone becomes performers without spectators and audiences; our newspapers would be television box sized and very bulky and less appealing to read; numerous pop ups on the net to interrupt the ever endless streaming celebrity hot hosts from being read by interested viewers... Imagine a world where everyone's dream come true. I imagine it, and I have arrived at a general conclusion that there would be anarchy! Even God himself would be bored because there would be no more status less people to pray to him ceaselessly, day and night ‪#‎truetalk# I bet there is absolutely no one who does not desire status. I imagine fame becoming too monotonous that it becomes faceless. This amounts to the reality that only a handful out of ten thousand are born to be famous and this is not by birth, chance or connections, but by GRACE!!! Follow @teeniethink

THE CHALLENGE...

Don't get sad when taunted, jeered at or capped; there are some truths in them. Do not cry when the truth stares at you in an undignified manner; it is a challenge you must take. When you neglect it, you have become a coward. The truth is bitter and a better way to shut the mouths of such bullies is to prove them wrong, by taking the challenge and turning your situation around. You are born to survive in this world of plenty, where only fame can make people know you exist. Always remember that there are a lot of people in your shoes, passing through similar challenges in this same world. You do not have to cry. You do not have to kill yourself or even give up. All you have to do is to scurry out those long abandoned dusty shoes and give them a good shine. Get ready to take that long journey, because a step and a day begins a story. A challenge is more like an opportunity to take a sweet revenge by shutting the mouths of those bullies.
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A MOTHER'S HEART.

 Who in the world could forgive you completely apart from our maker? I am utterly dumb struck as I eavesdrop in our neighbours' little cliché. God has carefully made a woman out of the most delicate organ of a man. Little wonder, all Jezebels have their soft spots. At least one weak point. Willing to go through the solid nine months of funny body changes, a woman takes it upon herself to become a mother; to bring into the world, a fate less child. A child whose fate lies on the mother's nurture, as the world sees it. I have whole lots of things to say about a mother's heart alone that even 357 pages of a thick cover note cannot contain. Mothers' hearts are fragile, yet strong! They break down easily and recuperates as fast. No matter how bad a child has gone; no matter how difficult a father takes it; a mother still reaches out for her child...
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WASTED TIMES

 Wasted times never end; they reoccur after each successive turnovers. Wasted times never start; they have carved a niche with nature that they seem immortal. Wasted times is past and yet present; you think you have had them, but you are still in them. Wasted times is a joke; a big prank that can always be mocked at, after a successful conquest. Wasted times is necessary; because it creates a story to be narrated or read about. Without wasted time, there would be no rest, no sleep, no leisure, no time to count losses, nothing to regret and perhaps, nothing to hold on to as a reason for a better advancement.

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AUNTIE

A term used for one’s father’s sister

one’s mother’s sister

a local household employer

female apprentice employer…

Native use of the word is ascribed to any elderly one.

Elderly ones.. Married, single, or engaged.

Anyone who has completed senior secondary school

Anyone whose height and face tells age

Anyone whose body shows signs of puberty

Physical changes and psychological changes

Anyone who uses facial enhancements…

Leaving the environment in my early stage of adolescence and known round the neighbourhood by name,

comes back, just after a year, a big fat year of whole lots of changes to hear toddlers and early teenagers yell “auntie” at my sudden emergence.

Quite embarrassed, I give them a blank look and ask coldly”how are you?”

OMG! I can’t believe it!

I have been unwittingly welcome to the “auntie hood” even without any formal initiation ceremony

Teenage happens like a snap of a finger.

Precocious teens are perhaps, the fastest